Monday, 2 November 2009


Lonely My Study Begins

Lonely My Study Begins



What are the out comes of Loneliness ?

Everyone will experience loneliness at some time in their life when they have little contact with people outside of the home. A large cause of loneliness though is when they don’t feel good about themselves, or the way their life is going. When, people feel that they have no importance or value in relationships with other people.



Prolonged periods of loneliness can lead to much deeper illnesses and these will be discussed in another document. These are caused by long periods of deep thinking, which leads to a feeling of being isolated and useless.



It is with regret that I have to say that loneliness and depression are linked together at this point and you may find visiting your doctor productive, he is trained in the recognition of these symptoms.



Depression is a serious illness and should never be dismissed. When people cannot see your illness, they cannot understand it. That doesn’t make it any less of an illness than any other. I n some cases, depression can be life threatening and needs addressing as early as possible.



Remember:



You are not alone; one in ten people can suffer from depression at some time in their life. Help is available and your doctor knows the best way to deal with your illness and who to put you in touch with if he can’t.



Many things can have an effect your mood, isolation and loneliness, take a look at these. Do you recognise any of them in yourself?



THINKING about yourself;





• You have nothing to share

• You don’t like yourself

• You have little if any trust in others

• You constantly criticise yourself

• Ashamed or Embarrassed about yourself

• Mental health issue

• Physical illness



All of these things can lead to you not wanting to meet others or find it difficult to mix with them when you do.



These are the issues I was covering in my original document, social meetings and venues. Getting to know knew people and basically finding a social life that you can fit in with and enjoy. Following interests and hobbies can be a good way of changing a poor social life. Dancing, Modelling, College, Social Drinking, Bingo to name a few of the venue based options that are good for meeting others.



Take a look at yourself, what do you enjoy doing?

Is there a group in your local vicinity? That do this already and that you can join.



If you don’t feel you can go alone, do you have a friend who would go with you until your confidence lifts?



Why not talk to people online, join some chat groups and get to know people through that activity. People can be very understanding and often a great force for support. They can encourage and nurture you through difficult times. I know that an online community is not the same as people in the flesh, but it is a good start.



You may join an online group that either is local to you or some of the participants are close to you. A get together could lead to a better life that’s got a meaning and it may help you see that you are no different to anyone else.



What about your education?

Do you feel you could benefit from a college course? This is a great way of meeting new people with a common cause. Colleges are not as daunting as people think. It is not a 1950’s school and no one forces you to learn. The experience is at a pace suitable to you, with others in the same situation.

Rarely do you sit in front of a blackboard with someone spouting a load of information at the rate of 100 miles an hour. In fact a lot of the knowledge you gain is from self study and research.



This is where your peers come in handy for each other. As a group you can study together, research the subject and each have something to offer another. It is also very good for building relationships and trust among the group. You can choose your friends and learn to tolerate others. The outcome is a joint effort; the course will have been fun and your social life much more interesting. Why? Because you have made it that way.



What can be the outcome if you don’t combat your loneliness?



It can become a serious health problem and could lead to:





• Anxiety

• Depression

• Alcohol Abuse

• Drug Abuse

• Anger and Violence

• Criminal Activities

• Self Harm or even Suicidal Tendencies



This is not an exhausted list; it is just a few of the more prominent outcomes of deep loneliness.



You may come in contact with these things at some time but they will become a bigger issue the longer you don’t combat you main issue; LONELINESS.



So please consider! Are you suffering from loneliness or are you just a little lonely. Can you address it now alone or could you use some help. What is the best policy for you, change your social situation or visit a doctor. Don’t ignore it, address it and move on with your life, for you have so much to give others and so much to enjoy. Take control, don’t let this become a vicious circle that will eventually become too hard to address.



I will continue with this in my next update and look at the other symptoms that can come from being lonely.

I will address Anxiety and Depression.